I have no idea where the complete truth lies in the Woody Allen – Dylan Farrow situation. However, I’m very clear that one of my moral compass rules — thou shalt not have sex with people you used to parent — has been broken.
Woody Allen’s behavior is clearly indefensible, possibly/probably criminal. But we also have to admit that Mia Farrow’s judgment was often deeply flawed. If only she had been able to let the relationship go much earlier — the staple of the daytime judge shows. Regardless, my sympathies lie with Ms. Dylan Farrow. The situation is heartbreaking.
That said, I find the comparative fates of Mia Farrow’s adopted children and biological children to be deeply troubling. Maybe Andre Previn’s influence is the missing piece, but how did the biological children fare so much better? And after all, he was involved in a few of the adoptions. I’m unsure of how he’s not held to account at all. His disowning of Soon-Yi seems particularly problematic. The fact that interracial adoption was involved thickens the plot and makes things harder to swallow.
If the family unit was unable to cope with the demands of children with special needs, why were additional adoptions allowed?
I don’t want to go further. I don’t want to be accused of feasting over the unsavory details, sorrow and moral collapse at the center of this controversy. So I conclude with this. In a Citizens United world, we have have to challenge the notion that money or for that matter anything: beauty, talent, or celebrity can or should buy anyone out of basic social contracts.