Stop, You’d Better Save Me

Um…no. Either you’ll participate in and lead your healing or it can’t and won’t happen.

My people perish because of lack of knowledge. Well, lack of knowledge begins with denial. I don’t see the needles, the pain, the text messages, the overdue bills, the …


The fake it until you can make it mentality which was helpful to the African American community in some ways, is literally killing us now. Two heartbreaking examples. 

Pastor Riva Tims admits that she might have been an enabler while they were married.

“Looking back, he probably felt like he could just do anything. I was an enabler in a sense,” Tims tells Ebony. Pastor Tims’ ex-husband was megapastor Pastor Zachery Tims, who died in mysterious circumstances in a seedy New York hotel room.

Cissy Houston: “Nippy never liked to share her problems with me, so I didn’t know exactly what was wrong,”

“The truth is, back then I didn’t really want to know about it.”

I’m not holding them responsible for the fates of clearly troubled individuals. All the interventions in the world might not have changed those destinies. But a legacy based on b.s. can’t be good for their families or the community at large. 

I’m living this myself with family members claiming that everyone is achieving their dreams while at least two members are succumbing to deep depressions. The truth shall set us free. If we don’t want to walk out of jail, we will be buried. 



About liftingasweclimb

Mildred Lewis writes and directs for theater, television, film and the web. She's also a full time professor, Christian, activist and troublemaker with a passion to save as much of the world as she can.
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