A Hiccup, A Step Back or Status Quo? Black Women Dating and Birth Control

I was talking to a young Black woman in my office about dating and cried when she left my office. She mentioned that she hadn’t been on a date during her entire college career.  The same thing that was going on in the 70s and 80s is still going on too often today. There are no simple answers. Of course, she could date men of another race. But they have to be willing and often they are not, or the baggage that they bring is unpalatable. When you realize that despite her beauty, fame and many admirable qualities, Whitney Houston faced a fairly dateless environment before Bobby Brown, you see the problem.

I realize that marriage rates for college educated women are slightly up. It’s hard to get excited about that with the disastrous overall marriage statistics and out of wedlock rates in the African American community.

And then I turned to the paper to read about the debates and controversy over birth control.

So again, meaningful access to birth control has to be defended. It’s very hard to move forward when you have to keep going back to clean up stuff that you thought was settled.

One step forward. Two steps back then three to the side, round robin and where are we exactly?

 

 

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About liftingasweclimb

Mildred Lewis writes and directs for theater, television, film and the web. She's also a full time professor, Christian, activist and troublemaker with a passion to save as much of the world as she can.
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