Halle, Gabriel and Nahla, Race in Interracial Relationships

  I hope this has silenced the haters.  Prety is as pretty does. Damaged people are damaged no matter how beautiful the packages or stacked the accomplishments.

Gabriel Aubry through no fault of his own spent some time in foster care. Probably some damage there but it’s equally likely that his experience made him more committed to being a good parent.

After her parents divorced, Halle Berry was estranged from her dad. Probably some damage there but it’s equally like that that experience increased her commitment to being a good mother.

Recent and previous allegations against Mr. Aubry suggest he has a temper. Fair enough. More troubling are the reports that he has called her mom and nanny, ni**ers.

For people of color in interracial relationships, this has to be an ultimate fear. While most couples wind up saying things that hurt each other, racial epithets are particularly thorny. They threaten to hurtle us back to a blood-soaked, vile history. If our partners can’t or refuse to understand the depth of the hurt, the relationship will probably deteriorate. And the profoundly negative impact on children is horrible to contemplate in a world where children of color continue to struggle.

Love me, lover but with respect.

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About liftingasweclimb

Mildred Lewis writes and directs for theater, television, film and the web. She's also a full time professor, Christian, activist and troublemaker with a passion to save as much of the world as she can.
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