The mother of victim number one of the Penn State scandal was trying to do the right thing. She enrolled her son in a sports program. She wanted to give him an adult role model. She wanted to keep him out of trouble. She wanted the best for him.
The mother … voiced concerns to her son’s school after noticing him becoming increasingly uncomfortable around Sandusky, and later asked her son why he didn’t report the abuse or try to stop it.
“He was like, ‘Well, I didn’t know what to do,’ ” she told ABC’s Good Morning America. “‘You just can’t tell Jerry no.’ “
Asking a child why he couldn’t stop his rapist?
It doesn’t matter if it’s a church, school, boys club, or girl scouts, you can’t drop your kids off and disengage. You have to remain involved. You have to stay alert. You have to see signs and be willing do something about them, even though you are overworked, underpaid, overwhelmed and bone weary.
The celebrity worship that marks our culture has to stop at our front doors. Yes, our children have to learn how to be respectful. But we also have to listen to their silent cries. Bad things happen. And when they happen at the hands of a coach, pastor, teacher, volunteer, or community leader, we have to be there for them. We can’t worship a position, a persona or a role more than we honor our kids. If they accuse someone falsely, deal with that. But better that than this.